Cognitive Restructuring

DOWNLOAD TOOL {PDF} There are tools — and then there are super-tools! I’m currently sharing this tool with my University of California, Los Angeles Law School students — whatever you worry most about when it comes time to give your presentation — write it in the “fear, worry, doubt, concern, stress” column. Example: I’m worried…

Double Negative: Meeting Ignorance with Impatience

I’m not the first to say that there is a lot of tension in conversations these days. Whether on social media, at the Thanksgiving dinner table, in office discussions, in political discourse and beyond. I’ve been listening to this dis-course: Listening to the dis-comfort, the dis-ease and to the general dis-content as well-intentioned people enter…

SURENESS: Developing a Confident Mindset to Live Life Fully

Sureness (noun) : A state of mind in which one is free from doubt. Synonyms: certainty, confidence, conviction, positiveness, satisfaction Related words: decisiveness, determination, firmness, purposefulness, resoluteness On a recent trip to Hawaii, I walked by a statue of a Burmese standing Buddha. The resort I stayed at was filled with spiritual sculptures and ancient artifacts, but this…

Prepare Your Emotional Strategy for Negotiating

Negotiating is an interpersonal process. Making deals involves individual interests that conflict, oftentimes giving rise to anger and anxiety. Most people prepare a legal and business strategy going into a negotiation that focuses on talking points, offers and counteroffers. Rarely do people plan out their emotional strategy for what is essentially an emotionally charged conversation.…